Spitting Hot Fire!

People talk. In fact, I bet someone is talking about you right now. Shocking, I know, but it's probably true!

So, it has recently come to my attention that someone, or a group of someones, have said some mean and hurtful things about me, mischaracterized me in conversation, said one thing to my face (add big smile here), but then turned around and bashed me in private. I understand that these individuals thought it was done in the safety of their circle, but as with all things, what is done in the dark eventually come to light...and it did.

At first, I felt betrayed. Then, I felt hurt. Finally, after allowing it to settle, I accepted it for what it was, one persons opinion, belief, perspective, or voice. It was in that moment that I clearly understood what those people thought of me. I could have allowed myself to get mad or get even, but I decided to follow Jay-Z's advice and brush my shoulders off.

Is this new? Not at all. In fact, all of us have been talked about at one time or another, but it's what we do next that matters. We can either participate in the negativity or rise above it. It's true, we have no control over what people think or say about us, but we can control who, and what, we allow in our lives.

"Surround yourself with people who build you up even when it would be easier for them to tear you down." ~ Unknown

I love that quote because it speaks to whom we should spend our time with. Forget those people who only want to tear you down, condemn you, destroy your happiness, and steal your dreams. No, look for individuals who are in your life to build you up, encourage you, inspire you, and leave you feeling better than when you arrived.

In addition to the circle of influence, we should also look at what we allow in our minds. In Philippians 4:8, it reads:

"Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things." Philippians 4:8 (KJV)

With all of the negativity we see and experience in the world, there is no reason we should continue to support it. Instead, let's focus on surrounding ourselves with good, honest, loving, caring, and respectful people who seek nothing more than to bless you, love you, and build you up.

Go ahead and get that dirt off your shoulder and make today a great one!

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